I just started dating this guy a few weeks ago. Everything about the relationship has moved too fast I guess. We got a little crazy and I tried anal with him idk what happened but he had to of tore something. There’s a huge lump on the outside of my butt now. It hurts really bad even to walk. It happened 2 or 3 days ago. I got my period so that’s why I’ve been telling him no to sex and that’s kind of been pushing him away as it is. I’m so afraid to tell him. Should I just break up with him? I can tell he won’t be able to go without sex and I feel like he just wouldn’t even believe me that it hurts this much. It hasn’t been working out for other reasons as it is. Should I save myself the embarrassment and just break up or be honest?
Also I’m really worried about this and can’t settle my mind down about it. This happened the morning after we had anal sex so this is an AF not a hemorrhoid right?? It’s really big and scary. I’ve almost thought about making a doctors appointment. I’ve been trying prep h coconut oil and a bath every night. It’s only day three. Is it possible the boyfriend stress is making it worse?