Hi,
I'm 22 yr old I am married with two children and since the birth of my second child(6months ago) I have been in constant pain with a chronic anal fissure!! I went to the specialist and he said I need surgery to fix it.. I was up for what ever needs to be done to get rid of this pain, then he said that there is a possibility of becoming incontinent, so I backed out.. I thought I was to young for that to happen it really scared me and still does!!!! Yesterday I was in the worse pain ever, it's the first time I have really cried becaus of pain.. I was kicking myself for not getting the surgery over a month ago!! My husband gave me some panadine forte to help me cope with the pain, and it has been AMAZING! But I really want this surgery but I'm still really scared! I haven't eaten any solid food for over 24 hrs because I don't want to have a BM!! Does anyone have advise..? I also have a skin tag that I want removed which I'm scared that it will make everything that much more painful!!
HELP ME PLEASE.. :D

Hi spila,
I can relate to you and a lot of others on this forum can 2. I got my fissure after the bith of my daught 9 months ago. I am now 4 wks post lis. yes there is the risk of becoming incontient buts its like 2% chance and i dont think anyone on this forum had that happen but it is common to have a little of that in the first few days after the lis, but some like me have nothing. Also be careful with panadine forte it may constipate you, maybe you could take a stool softener at the same time. Dawn had a lis and skin tag removed about 7 weeks ago read her story.
They say that the lis the highest chance of healing a fissure after that long.
I am glad to have done the lis and its not as bad as you think its going to be.

Hey there,
I'm sorry you have a fissure. This must be really hard while having a baby to take care of and enjoy.
First I wanted to say that I have had LIS and a skin tag removed almost 8 weeks ago. Here's my thread link. I cancelled my account and it's under guest now: http://anal-fissure.org/considering-surgery-or-already-had-it-f1/lis-skin-tag-removal-today-t2437.htmhttp://anal-fissure.org/considering-surgery-or-already-had-it-f1/post-op-appointment-today-t2489.htm
I understand your fears about eating and trying to avoid BM'S but you really need to eat. There are many tips on fissure friendlier foods in the diet and supplements threads. Not eating may increase your chances of constipation not to mention what it's doing to your health, but I can totally relate. I lost 50lbs w/ my fissure in an 8 month period.
The best advice I can give you is try to eat plenty of well cooked fruits and vegetables and get enough fiber but not too much and take a good stool softener such as miralax/movicol to make the bm's as comfortable as possible. I know it's about impossible to do that with a fissure but not eating at all can't really be an option for too long without making your health worse.
Have you seen a CRS and/or scheduled a date for surgery? My experience has been good and has gave me so much relief. I wish you the best:) This is a great forum with loads of information. Take care:)
Dawn

I'd like to add as new mum said it's rare and a low % of a chance. I asked my crs and she said she has never had a patient with incontinence. That's the answer you want to hear from your doctor in my opinion!!

thank you all so much for your support!
Dawn, how long did it take for the skin tag to heal? and how was the pain!? i have a 20 month old and a 6 month old that keep me on my toes, will i be okay? thanks for the advise on the food, its scary to eat now but i see where your coming from.. i will have to get a stool softener asap!
New mum and Dawn,
did you ever experience any incontinence? how long will it all take to heal? and can you control gas?
im thinking surgery is my only option, im just so scared..
but hearing that no one on here has suffered from permanent incontinence gives me more confidence!
Spila

I had mild gas incontinence for a couple of weeks which isn't unusual after surgery.No problems now!
It takes 6-8 weeks for most fissures to heal, some take longer. The skin tag was sore for about 6 weeks with me.
Nothing like fissure pain, just sore- getting better every week...
I do think you will need some help with the babies while recovering. I'd say 2-3 weeks to give yourself the best start with healing. You may be able to do things before that time line but I think you should rest and try not to lift anything while your bottom is healing.
Spila, one thing that I feel you must do to have the best recovery is to know what works for you as far as stool softeners, fiber supplements,food or what ever and keep it up...
while recovering

I just want to say that I'm 10 days post LIS and have 2 kids ages 3 and 5. My 3 year old is very high maintenance and I did hire a sitter for my recovery. It is costly, but it has to be done. I will have help this week which is my 2nd week and then thank goodness it's winter break from school (mine are both in school and require driving here and there so the sitter had to do that too) so I'll have another 2 weeks of not driving and I won't need the sitter full time after this week probably.
My LIS was easy peasy. I too worried about incontinence but it is soooo rare, and really not worth the worry. Again, it had to be done, so I had to do it. I had some post op pain for about 2 days, but haven't had anything significant since. I'm getting up and around and I'm sure will be able to enjoy Christmas with my kids. I won't be auditioning for Fame anytime soon, ha, but I really couldnt' ask for more. I haven't been incontinent of gas or stool. Just some light bloody spotting that is just when I wipe.
So far, this is the best thing I could have done for myself and my family. My CRS said this was a very large AF, btw.
Ask all the questions you'd like, we're all here to help.

Thank you soo much for all the encouraging advice!!
i called my CRS yesterday and he said that he will do a Sphincterotomy and skin tag removal on THURSDAY!! 16th of this month!! (Australian time) i am soo excited to have this all behind me! still nervous though! might have to get my sister in law to come help me!
so should i try not to be picking up my baby?? i still breastfeed thats all! is it possible to tear something picking baby up? are there any stitches involved??
i love this forum!! it has been a blessing to come across!! i use to think i was weird and the only one with these problems!! thank you all for sharing your stories!
Spila xo

Hey spila,
Good Luck with your surgery on the 16th. I think some have stitches and some don't. You will be sore and there will be some swelling going on down there, so it's probably a good idea not to add more pressure by picking up the baby. Maybe you could lay down to nurse. Some of the other moms with babies can probably answer this better than I can.
I know what you mean about thinking youre alone and weird with this problem,Lol. I felt like a freak of nature until I found out that three other people I know had a fissure and Lis too. This forum has been a blessing though.
My Dads sister, my Aunt lives in Australia. I have tons of family there. Some I've never met. Would love to visit there one day:)
Take care and let us know how your surgery goes. I will try to help you in any way I can.
Dawn

Thanks Dawn!
your awesome!!
I'll let you know how the surgery goes! :)
Australia is good fun, you would love it!