by happyass » 16 Dec 2010, 21:44
well i can totally understand being a mess right now.
i have never had surgery either. i was freaked out that when i was originally scheduled for LIS in 2008, i also scheduled a colonoscopy and fistulotomy. i always wondered why the CRS at that time thought he saw a fistula.
anyway, all those 3 combined got me wickedly scared!
i also had cancer thoughts that plagued me back then so i kept the colonoscopy and the CRS recommended that whatever i was doing, the fissure and supposed fistula had been healing so he canceled those himself.
i have had an enjoyable 2 years for the most part since then but i still have to deal with the occasional mismanaged bm and irritating the skin tag and the area. i often thought a lot what it could be like if i got rid of the skin tag. it doesn't bother me that its there but i think it causes a lot of aggrevation.
and now my fissure is back.
so yes it is tempting to think, if i can only get to where i was again in 2008 and have another 2 years of manageable living, it would be great but i think i have gotten to the point where it would be even better if i could live life to the most enjoyment.
i am optimistic about this decision next month. even though i am a complete scaredy cat and well, i am freaked out about the possible pain that will have to be dealt with during the healing process and the possible idea that nothing will change from the way it was pre-procedure and the worst case scenario, things only get worse.
i am sure you have those same concerns.
i think i am willing to gamble this time - and i don't know why it just feels different this time - there is not too much fear or resistance in my thoughts or actions about it. it's like it's meant to be at this particular time.
perhaps for you, you need a little more time to get there. or you can bite the bullet and move with it tomorrow to get it out of the way and begin your healing.
just understand that there is no overnight cure or overnight sense that it will all go away tomorrow.
my original CRS, who i believe is wise and i wish i could find him because i would definitely have no hesitation with him doing the LIS as he had years of this stuff - whereas my CRS now, she is under 10 years of CRS specialization so she is rather new but not off the fresh farm truck - but there is something about her that exudes confidence and trust. shoot, she put in two anoscopes in my butt this past monday, and as uncomfortable as that may be, it really showed me that she wanted to be thorough and was concerned about my situation. back to the original CRS, he mentioned that healing would take about 6-8 weeks and that the anus would probably be looking more normal around 6-8 months while feeling actually normal could take up to a year. That is pretty conservative. That is what I am going into with this. If it is any faster, then great. But from what I have read, everyone is a bit different and it is better to set goals at a longer pace to allow yourself that time to heal. The body is going to do it on its time table and no one else's.
i recall earlier today that you mentioned you still had blood during your BMs. and you have had some feedback that it probably was more than likely a sign that your fissure was still active.
my other thought into this is that since you are in a hyper-state of anxiety and sorta flight-fight response, your body is probably producing the right mixture of chemicals to ward off the pain that you would normally have with your BMs. kinda like to throw you off and confuse you.
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no one here on the board can force you to do this tomorrow.
and no one here expects you to do anything you don't want to do.
some of us have been right where you are and some will be, including me next month, where you are.
we are here to support you no matter what you decide to do and if you need some more time, then so be it.
i keep running into posts from people with positive experiences of having the LIS and saying that they are kicking themselves for not doing it any sooner.
well, i really want to be one of those people too. from 2004 to 2010, i really want 2011 and beyond to be totally asstastic!
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also since you mention doing Botox and recently in September, what happened between September and now that you did schedule this surgery? i think if you focus on that and the importance of why you made that decision then, it could help bring some closure onto why you would just go through with it tomorrow.
i've never done botox and for some reason, i think i would rather do the LIS than that. but that is just me.
may i ask where you are writing from? are you in the USA?