I did try cold then hot then cold and it seemed to give me a good amount of relief. Unfortunately after having my 2nd BM today, I think I re tore (or tore it more) my fissure. Because I feel like I almost felt it tear again...and there was a small amount of blood when I dabbed myself with wet toilet paper

. Needless to say, it got me feeling discouraged all over again. Of course I still find relief from the symptoms of the fissure by using one of my coconut oil suppositories, but I don't want I have to do this for months and months to come! I've had hemmies since pregnancy that got worse along with the fissure since march... Here we are half way through May and my vicious cycle of "I feel good today" "I wanna bury myself in a hole today" continues and it's ruining my life! I've been married for 3 years. I'm a young mom with two kids and there is sooo much I want to do!! I rarely go out anymore or see my friends. I'm always afraid I'll suddenly have to poop and then be in agonizing pain since I can't hop into a bath tub or do my daily ritual of cleaning myself after my BM. I used to be able to use a suppository and be able to walk around just fine. Now because my hemmies are so bad, I can't sit or stand for very long without hurting. I know there are a lot of great success stories of people healing after surgeries, but I have read way too many depressing outcomes of surgeries on here and it just makes me think that taking the chance will make me feel like I ruined my life even more if I don't end up being a lucky one that recovers 100%. I used to go walking at the beach a lot, or at this really nice park with a big lake in the middle of it, or take long random drives to the mountains or just somewhere fun and new like a zoo or Japanese garden(which I can no longer do because it's uncomfortable to drive or even sit in a car) sorry I'm ranting on and on. It's just that when you talk to other people that have no real actual idea of the pain and suffering your going through, it's hard for them to show compassion and give any type of encouraging words or advice. Like my sister, I cried to her one day and all she had to say about it was "eww that's gross, That sucks" ugh. Tomorrow my husband has the day off. I just hope I am not in a lot of pain tomorrow so that I can at least try to go do something fun with my family. Anyways all of you who read my loooong rant, thank you for reading my thoughts and I hope it didn't bore you too much. I find myself on this forum multiple times a day. This is pretty much the only place I have to go where I don't feel alone in my agony. Ugh I sound so pathetic. Lol.geezus