Aw Rustyelf! I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time.
What are your symptoms? Are you in pain? Are you passing pus? Is it only bleeding during BMs? Is it a lot of blood or only a bit on the TP?
I'm four months post-fistulotomy and I still bleed a bit sometimes with BMs. I bled quite a bit two weeks ago and then again about a week ago - a bit like a small nosebleed - and that really freaked me out, so I made an appoinment with my surgeon. I saw him just Wednesday. He took a very careful and thorough look, poked my butt quite thoroughly and told me he was very pleased with how well I'm healing. He told me not to worry about some blood. That is normal after so much trauma and the blood wasn't coming from the wound - it was coming from the hemorrhoidal plexus tissue, which is likely still delicate because of all the trauma. It will take some time for all the tissues down there to get stronger, but I shouldn't worry. Everything is good.
Adam and Summergal recently posted updates, and they also described still bleeding a bit and still passing some exudate/pus. I think they are about three months post-fistulotomy or so. I was also still passing exudate until about a week ago, but my doc says that's also normal.
If you are worried, and especially if you are in pain or passing a lot of blood and/or pus, you should see your doc again. But if you're not in pain, then what you are experiencing may be quite normal. All that said, definitely trust your instincts about whether or not to see your doc.
I certainly understand your frustration! These things to so flippin' long to heal! I know how you feel, buddy. Try not to worry. You will heal and soon all this will be a distant memory!