Hey everyone! New here :) Glad to find that there is a place for people to be able to discuss this. There is so little reliable information on this publicly. As you can assume, I have an anal fissure.
It would seem I got mine due to having bad sushi. Said sushi caused 6 days of horrible diarrhea. On the 7th day I had a solid stool that was the biggest monstrosity ever. I supposed the week of diarrhea left me more dehydrated than I thought and that stool ripped right through me. There was a lot of pain and a lot of blood and thus my fissure was born.
This was back in February.
About a month later the pain that came during bowel movement went away. I had done normal things that were suggested such as high fiber, lots of water, baths, etc... Eventually the bleeding even stopped when I would have a bowel movement. I don't know if the bleeding would still occur after a hard stool since I am still on a high fiber diet and plan on keeping it. The problem I am having is that, as a gay man, my anus is very important for intercourse. I -cannot- bottom without there being a lot of blood. No pain ever, just a lot of blood.
I have been to three doctors already. One was my general doctor, the second was a GI, and the third was a rectal surgeon. All of them said the same thing: it is almost healed and we don't recommend surgery since there is no pain at all. They all want me to wait it out basically which I have been doing since February!! The second doctor prescribed me the Nitro cream but that didn't cause it to heal 100%.
Naturally I don't go around having anal sex while this is happening. On two different occasions after 7-8 weeks of no bleeding I decided to use a toy with a lot of lube that was small. Always caused the bleeding. I can only imagine an actual penis. Sorry for the "TMI" but it is what it is.
This last doctor I went to told me that there's really nothing that can be done. He doesn't recommend surgery so just to wait it out and maybe I'll "grow out of it". He even suggested that having more frequent anal sex would get my anus used to it and would allow for the fissure to not get bothered by it after a while. This doesn't strike me as right...
Sorry for the wall of text ._. I am just at a loss and really frustrated and typing it out actually made me feel better.
Any ideas?