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Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby lhamlett94 » 08 Nov 2017, 03:19

I just started dating this guy a few weeks ago. Everything about the relationship has moved too fast I guess. We got a little crazy and I tried anal with him idk what happened but he had to of tore something. There’s a huge lump on the outside of my butt now. It hurts really bad even to walk. It happened 2 or 3 days ago. I got my period so that’s why I’ve been telling him no to sex and that’s kind of been pushing him away as it is. I’m so afraid to tell him. Should I just break up with him? I can tell he won’t be able to go without sex and I feel like he just wouldn’t even believe me that it hurts this much. It hasn’t been working out for other reasons as it is. Should I save myself the embarrassment and just break up or be honest?
Also I’m really worried about this and can’t settle my mind down about it. This happened the morning after we had anal sex so this is an AF not a hemorrhoid right?? It’s really big and scary. I’ve almost thought about making a doctors appointment. I’ve been trying prep h coconut oil and a bath every night. It’s only day three. Is it possible the boyfriend stress is making it worse?
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Re: Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby Mypoorbutt » 08 Nov 2017, 09:24

If I were you I would go and see your doctor as it could be either. Only you can make the choice whether to stay with your boyfriend but no one should ever feel pressured into sex, anal sex whilst it can be enjoyable can also caused lots of problems if not done with care and preparation.
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Re: Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby yenrac » 08 Nov 2017, 11:27

I would take the anal issue out of the equation and ask yourself the same question. You said there are other things that make you want to move on.

If that's the case then you already know the answer.

Having a fissure has taught me that we have to be healthy... so we can take are of other people. Focus on your health right now.

Mental stress DEFINITELY makes these things worse...
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Re: Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby patience_and_healing » 08 Nov 2017, 18:57

Anyone who cares more about sex than your emotions is really not worth hanging around with. Leave now and spare yourself future pain and worry. Take care.
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Re: Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby hurtinend » 08 Nov 2017, 19:56

1) go to the doctor
2) don't allow the boyfriend or anyone to do anything with you that you are not comfortable with

I wish you well.
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Re: Should I break up with my new boyfriend

Postby yenrac » 16 Nov 2017, 22:26

How did things work out?
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