Don't worry Christina, your not the only one who's FIRST prioity is the ass.. :lol!: My whole existence at the moment is soley focusing on what goes in - and what comes out... Its good.. in a way!
I am taking Sorbitol (Sorbilax 70 %) it is a sugar based softener so my bowels will never become addicted would you say..
I take 20 mls morning and night - Also 1 metamucil tablet morning and night.
I try my best to eat atleast 4 pieces of fruit a day and also have veggies with dinner - (I prefer to rely on natural fibre from foods rather than the fibre drinks or tabs)
Anyway, I find this is enough to give me 1 -2 soft fluffy BM's per day.
Christina, I would be v. careful - sometimes going to the toilet too many times (expecially if its to runny from too many laxatives or softeners) can be just as bad as having a firm stool.
When I first came home from hospital I was on TOOOO many laxatives and my ass was burning, it gave me all sorts of grief.. as soon as someone told me to ease up on the laxatives, along came my fluffy poos!
Its just a matter of juggling diet with softeners to find what combination is right for your body - stick with it, you will find it soon

p.s. if your going that many times, be sure to continue your salt baths after every BM to keep your wound clean !!