by chiaseed » 23 Aug 2018, 13:47
Honestly, no partner has ever been rude enough to say anything about it, and I've had many partners who definitely, explicitly appreciate that part of my body (sorry if TMI). I've done work over the years to become comfortable and confident with my body, and mostly have felt this way for years. I don't worry about my breasts not being perfectly perky, or having a small belly, or whatever, but this one insecurity is just won't go away.
During sex, I act as if I am not at all self-conscious and ignore it and don't try to hide that part of my body like some people here write about. And if someone did say something rude, I would honestly be angry and kick them out of bed because I'm only human and it's ridiculous to be rude and judgmental about such a small flaw and I don't care or judge or comment on partners for various little scars or moles or stretch marks or whatever, and if someone is sharing their body with you, don't be a jerk, etc.
But even after years of faking it til you make it (like 6 years no?) and no partners being judgmental as far as they've ever let on, I just can't get over it and I feel horrified if I look at that part of my body. So it seems like, maybe I can actually just fix it?
Anyway, I think your advice is generally really good advice, and I'm daunted by the pain--anyone whose had an AF has had enough pain in that area!!--and possibility of bad outcomes. But I just cannot seem to get over the insecurity. :/