Hi Sue, sorry you are going through the anal-fissure-dance! I have not had surgery either, and have had mine for over a year.
A few suggestions: it is better, in most's opinion on here, and colon and rectal surgeons too, not to use anything on your anus except water. When I have had a BM, I pat a few times, not rub, with my ordinary loo paper. Then I have a slightly thicker loo paper, which I dampen a small folded wad of it and again pat until clean, then dry in the same
way. Then, if I am not using my nifedipine, I gently rub a little Vaseline on. the Vaseline has helped generally to heal the outside for me. When I shower, I never use soap there. Sounds awful, but you will be just as clean with water, and you will have nothing irritating it.
I also get pain in my perineum, and further up in my vulva. Mostly this is when I strain (a NO-NO, but easier to say than do). Some days it is difficult to wee, some days not. Yesterday was a day from hell today is better. No reason to it...
Here is a link on here to reasons NOT to use witch hazel.
http://anal-fissure.org/t961-witch-hazelHappyAss's post is a good one there.
Hope this helps!! Feel better, come back and moan! We have all been through it/are going through it.
Em