hi all,
i often have to give a little push at the beginning of a bm
nothing major, very gentle
i read here that people get worried about this
i breathe, etc,
but sometmes just a little push does the trick
at what point does pushing out go from being harmless to harmful?
thanks

when it's hard and dry and u push it through.

okay, so that's not the same as "a little push" to get things going?
geez.... never had think about any of this!
thanks

hi beachgirl, this answer may varies on others, please take mine with a pinch of salt
for me, i do deep breathing in and out during BM, so the stools will be able to pass out easily from the natural pushing movements of your anal muscles.
In one sense, there must be some pushing involved (yes gentle ones) to start the ball rolling, however, it shldn't be a conscious one (like straining, holding your breath), it should be a sub-conscious one where ur anal muscles does its own job.
Bottomline is, u r not alone. I do at times need to push gently so as to initiate the motion, cos sometimes the initial bit is semi-hard and then the rest would follow.
I hope u get what i meant. :)