I have similar pains, and my days can be both painful and uncomfortable.
I do use a Sitz Bath, bought at Rite Aid, which has been a godsend for me. I also don't eat too much as I know what hell I can go through the next day. I poop sometimes five times a day, sometimes the last time being when I want to be in bed asleep. That is truly one of the big pains in my arse!!!!! I have had this since 2011, so it is a case of trying to accept it. My only truly pain free time is at night when I have 0.75 of Lorazapam and can sleep, usually til about 4am.
Sorry you are going through the same mess.