by coconut » 05 Feb 2013, 17:45
mkotb - I'm a vegan and I have this problem. (It started when I stopped-up my bowels by binging on cheese and sausage one week, but after that its been all wholsome veg food for me, too.) My stools are SOFT! So clearly, soft stools are not enough for everyone. I think that I've always had a tight sphincter.
About the marriage - look... I know that we have this perception that newly weds are supposed to live in this blissful state, but the reality is different. When you get married, you take on this huge task - you take on actually creating a family. And that is hard work. Its not all love and romance. Most new couples have hard times adjusting to being married and many, many of them face health or financial problems in the first years. My brother is two years in and facing the death of both of his inlaws. Its a big mess. But that doesn't mean that something is going wrong. To the contrary, something is going very right because he is present to his wife and her family while they go through this. Marriage is about facing these things together, as a unit, as a family. I come across so many young couples in my line of work, coming to me because one partner is sick and both people are coming to appointments because the healthy partner wants to be part of the sick partner's life. That's how marriages are cemented, not through vacations and romance. We have to learn to face things together. Just my two cents worth. Take it or leave it.