by ImpressiveInstant21 » 05 May 2013, 12:23
Hi guys,
I hope you're all well. :D I just want to start by saying that I stumbled upon this forum today and wish I had found it earlier; I think it's a great way for people who are having these similar problems to communicate.
My name is Josh, I turned 21 in March, and I live in the United Kingdom. A while ago, I noticed a lump on the outside of my anus (I don't know what caused it) whilst I was washing my body and contacted my doctor straight away. When I went to see him, he checked me, told me that I had a chronic anal fissure and said it was nothing to worry about. He told me about what an anal fissure was, about the symtomps and the treatments for it.
Strangely, I have, however, not experienced any of the symptoms of an anal fissure: no pain, no bleeding, no itching, no stinging, and etc. - nothing.
This leads me to my query: I am gay, and, although I have not had any sexual experience as of yet (as much as I have sexual needs I know that I would feel much more comfortable engaging in sexual activity with a boyfriend), I know that I will enjoy sexual intercourse and do, like a few others on this forum, consider myself a bottom. I have read up on some similar issues that users on the forum (as well as elsewhere) have had, but it seems like they are mostly fearful of engaging in anal sex because of the pain. Since I have not had any painful experiences - or any of the symptoms for that matter - I am assuming it would be fine for me to engage in sexual intercourse as long as I am careful and, as already stated elsewhere, maybe use sex toys so that my ass is used to stretching first.
I am considering going back to my doctor's and asking to speak to a nurse about it, or anyone who may know an answer to this, as I find this very strange. On a webpage that I was looking at earlier, a sentence read as follows: 'Sometimes an anal fissure may be a painless wound that won't heal and that bleeds intermittently but causes no other symptoms.' This is the closest definition of an anal fissure that I can categorise my issue with, although, as aforementioned, I don't even bleed at all.
When my mother first checked the issue for me she thought it was a skin tag; I'm wondering, then, given this and the previous information that I have posted, if my doctor actually got his terminology wrong (one poster in a thread that I read earlier mentioned something about doctors not having much knowledge on fissures).
Anyway, I probably will contact my local doctor's again and book an appointment with somebody, so I will keep you all updated on that, especially if something is said that might prove useful to anybody else. However, I still felt it would be beneficial for me to join this forum, and if anyone can let me know any valuable information about my query I'd be extremely grateful.
Thank you very much; it's much appreciated. Much love,
Josh xoxoxo