Juney babe, it is hard and it is emotionally draining - any chronic pain can do that to us : (. I really can relate , believe me, this is THIRD painful condition that heave to live with. It may sound as oxymoron but the fact that I got control of the first 2 ones when nobody gave me any hope and just told me to learn to live with it gives me hope that I can get out of this one too ! What helped me always was to read inspirational books with true stories about healing and in the moments of despair watching funny movies. It also helps to go out - if nothing for long walks around neighborhood or some nice park. If I felt like crying during those walks I would - I don't give a dam what people think and dark glasses help ; ). I would feel so much better after letting it all out.
And, of course, there are meds that can help - if one does not, you can try other one. I never tried antidepressants but was seriously considering taking Cymbalta at one point after my GP suggested it with those words : " Chronic pain leaves scars in the brain, it messes up brain chemistry since pain signals are present always - please conceder that alternative". I decided to have LIS instead and did not have to take anything, but there is no shame in finding help or taking medicine!
Meditations and prayers also can do wonders for our mind - you don't even have to be religious - use transcendental meditations for example. It is scientifically proven that repetition of any words calms mind and promotes healing . My favorite book is "Spontaneous Healing" by Andrew Wail - it gives examples of people healing by themselves - very inspirational. Yoga is fantastic too, or try massages - they relax so much! I also like to listen to relaxing music and daydream with it - it takes your mind away for period of time and helps it regenerate. Just don't EVER give up or loose hope - all is possible !!!