I had gotten to perfect management (Pain 0-1 most days) using 2-3 400mg magnesium tablets and Movicol lunch and dinner. I don't eat any of the "scary" foods - most goes in soft haha. I think the stress may have gotten too me as we have just travelled interstate for her surgery, and now we have to re open the wounds 6 times a day and she SCREAMS. its so terrifying.

I can't get an appointment with my GP for weeks to get a referral so will cope until then

Im glad magnesium is ok, I worried about taking too much each day and having a magnesium overload haha.

I am so upset as I don't want to have to end up going back to mum's to help me look after my baby
Thank you for your reply!

So sorry things are so tough for you right now. May I ask what your daughter is battling? It sounds very painful, for all.

You sound like such a good Mom and surely she is so lucky to have you. I hope things improve for you very soon.

Thanks Msimon - nothing too scary in the long run thank goodness - but she had to fly to Melbourne to have laser surgery in her mouth for three tongue ties and an upper lip tie, and side lip ties Because ties aren't really dealt with well in Australia, and I live in SA which is the most backwards state medically we had to travel (and pay out the rear too as it ended up being classed as dental surgery which nothing covers) - and the second thing is her torticollis which we had to do while interstate and already in pain from the surgery, we had to go to a specialist and get her stretched about, measured and looked at and they are considering surgery in the neck for that one
The crappy part is we have to stick our fingers in her mouth and reopen all the wounds, 6 times a day, 10 rubs on each wound... and as we would too, she hates it haha! I am just glad it is something that will go away and not a life long thing - it could be so much worse!

One awesome part that has come from the surgery is she is latching on and breastfeeding better than ever. Right back at the start of my journey with AF I thought I would have to stop breast feeding to try and heal (and hey, that may work one day haha) but I fought so hard to not have to and I am so proud of both of us - when she was running underweight - turns out she couldnt nurse because her tongue was being held down - she has invented a way of feeding where she literally squeezes rather than sucks the milk out - and managed to keep thriving! <3

AF wise today I am still suffering and wondering what I did wrong to have the setbacks. Feeling like crap. I am very angry all the time at others, especially a friend who had an hr long labour and no problems, and I feel very why me?? as I am still battling the AF, scar tissue from episiotomy that wont heal, infection, breastfeeding issues and have now been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder because of all that, so I am quite angry at others. (not that it's their fault, but doesn't stop my head blaming!)