Since hem surgery my bm became a mess. Before I didnt have any problem. And docs tell me that my strange bm is not related to the surgery but I read lots of people's story and most of their bm messed up after hem surgery.
I take stool softener once a day or one in a two day. The problem is that I would have diarrhea if I eat vegie or any processed (or not home cooked) food. Today I had 2 episodes of diarrhea
I ate vegi soup thought it is ok now ;(
I would be constipated time to time. So, I really don't know what's wrong with my bm.
Also another big problem is I have frequent bms a day. If I have 2 bms im lucky on that day.
Because, after bm my life just stops. I have so much discomfort afterwards. I would have only 2-3 hours of relieve which is when I woke up in the morning and until the bm. Symptom is little better during night time as I get up to feed my daughter. Other than that I can't function all day. I would think if it was pain maybe I could manage it with painkiller. But when I read here seems like pain is pretty hard to deal with too. maybe even worse
how do you feel after bm? how long would you have pain? Do you have any other symptoms than pain?
I'm really sorry that you are going through this.
What's your plan? How long are you going to bear it? Are you going to consider the surgery?
For me, it's hard. I don't have that much pain, but discomfort is a lot. and I really don't know if surgery is going to fix it or not. Even docs don't know whats causing this nasty sensation. They could only guess. But colonoscopy identified that I have a fissure. So, maybe surgery would be worth it ... I'm having mixed thought. Also, what I understood is that AF could happen again and again even it get healed at a time. So, again maybe surgery is the option anyway.But again what if things get worse. Maybe it's worth waiting to heal. Same time my insurance will stop in April if I don't go back to work as a full time. My husband is getting me back up insurance which is way expensive than I have now. So, if I have surgery after April probably it would cost more than I have it now.
How is you sex life? My husband is afraid to touch me ;( it has been long without any sex life
I drink a lot! I think that helps a lot to have a soft bm. Try to find what kind of food works best.
For me :
warm water with honey and vinegar first thing in the morning - 16oz
oatmeal with some raisins alternate with fiber one cereal
one orange
slice of wheat bread / with avacado or without anything
hot tea - like green tea or my traditional milk tea
garorate/water
insure or lunch (salmon, rice, seaweed salad, dried seaweed, rice or kinoa (dont know the spelling, also i'm tyring to type as fast as a could while baby is sleeping))
drink hot tea (herbal tea)
slice of bread (I love bread) with plain yogurt
maybe some fruit like figs, strawberry, mandarin, apple etc. But i have to be careful with fruits as gas makes my symptom even worse.
in the evening insure or some fried meat or broth (I can't stop meat) maybe another bread.
Everybody here is eating vegi and fruit but those makes me sick (diarrhea or gas) so what can I do ;(
oh I started taking chewing fiber.
I hope we can get through this together and get back our life back. To be the best moms!