Hey Sam - I agree. I have told several people. I had to for them to understand what was going with me and the pain that I was going through. I am so thankful I did. My parents have so helpful during all this for me. I dont know what I would have done without them. My poor dad has done everything for me lately and been with me every step of the way. I hope you are lucky enough to have the same kind of support system through your issues.

lol tonystone, tilt your ass up i guess when im bare assed cheeks spread apart getting examined i would need to be over it. i feel like when i get to that point i have lost my dignity lol oohh welllll if i go to a CRS like you said earlier it wont really bother them cuz they look at assholes all the time lol ill just have to think of it that way lol

thanks toby727, im planning on telling my mom first, then i'll see if i have enough courage to tell any other family members. you guys are so brave to tell the people in your lives about your problem, good for yall!

Before I had surgery for my fistula there was no way I'd ever talk about bottom issues.
I met up with a good friend the other day who I haven't seen for ages, anyway, I was telling her about my bottom problems and then after I'd told her that it was probably a very large poo that tore my bottom again. I thought at the time - well, I've changed.

She was fine about hearing the details too.

hey sam, i am glad you are gonna tell your mom. hope she gets you a appointment with a crs. i have went to a women doc and maybe that would help you feel more at ease.

My parents knew as they were the ones who took me to hospital and I live with them! They have been really supportive. I have told close friends, and my bosses in work know. Didn't tell work until after 4 months as I didn't really want to say, but I'm glad they know. My boss even came and visited me in hospital!! I would tell your Mum first, you need some support through this :D Plus like others have said, you get used to docs having to look at you. Just what has to happen for you to get better! Good luck :D

Oh please, please please tell someone. No one is going to make fun of you. And if they do, they obviously don't understand the pain it causes. I would tell your mom. She'll be understanding, and you may be surprised that it's quite possible that she may have experienced one at some point in her life. She may have some advice! I pretty much told everybody except the guy down the street lol Pretty sure I'd even tell him if I was talking to him lol. After I had my son, all humility went out the window. Pretty sure I've even gotten my husband to apply cream down there. God love him, he's a saint!! It's good to have people to talk to!!

ok guys thanks for the replies and the encouragement to tell somebody...anyway i told my mom yesterday. she was glad i told her and she was concerned about me. she wants me to see a doctor asap. so ive been looking around on the web and found a colon rectal specialist who looks legit and im going to make an appointment on monday. ive decided that taking bloody shits that hurt like hell aint normal and can no longer be tolerated so i need help! ill let yall know how things are going! thanks everybody :)

So glad you told your mum, and that you have an appointment with a specialist.
Best of luck for monday!