by sailorgal » 28 Mar 2012, 05:00
when i travelled dealing with pain before and after my surgery. i was initially squeemish with sharing the details to my hosts, but hard to avoid considering how much time i was in the bathroom and my diet restrictions, but they were totally sympathetic to it. 2nd time i went was much easier from that standpoint, bcz i had already created my "comfort zone" there. Full pre-planning is very helpful bcz it at least eases the tension, nerves of being able to meet all of your needs. My boyfriend had a short conversation with our hosts before our arrival just as a head's up about food and if they have a bath tub, hot water.
the mornings that I travelled, i luckily didn't have a BM - as long as you aren't on too many stool softeners to give you urgency issues, you should be ok. It was helpful to learn that the body just knows when it can and will hold off on going. I didn't end up going until that first night or the following morning, which made me a little nervous - but again, was able to do my routine of things and the weekend (albeit physically uncomfortable due to the symptoms at times) was a hugely healing weekend, just to get out of the house and enjoy hanging out at a weekend get a way with friends. it does take courage, but again with the preplanning, it's worth it.