Hi Lana,
Welcome, and sorry to hear of your pain. You have come to the right place, this site is fantastic for help, advice, and just moral support.
I used a Huge round plastic mixing bowl for sitz baths, and had three a day for 20 minutes, which helped amazingly. I also put Epsom saltls in each time to help.
I also got a Squatty potty to help ease the pain of BMs, and it really did help too. But anything you can raise your feet on to have you sitting in a squatting position whilst going will help.
As said above, vaseline before each BM and also I used it during the day too, and a waterbottle or heat pad are a great help.
Water, and lots of it, and soft healthy food diet. And the belief that you will get better. Because you will.
So many people here to help and offer you advice, so never feel alone, because your not.
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