Thanks Phil, NG and Elfkin, I've just popped on for the last time before the big day, infact I'd like to thank cheryl, Fissy and other board members that have contributed to this forum and for being so sympathetic and understanding, you know, this board really does rock, if I had not found this place then I wouldn't be nowhere near as prepared for this as I am now, you guys get 10/10 for the help and advice right from diet tips, toileting techniques, butt wiping and stool softener info to pain meds info and surgery etc etc, I couldn't ask for more even though I know you'd give more..
