Hello there,

I am a gay 30yr old male and I’ve been dealing with this for about the same amount of time. It started out much more painful, but now I just deal with re-tearing sometimes when I have hard stool (or perhaps when I eat certain foods but it’s unclear).

I thought I had this figured out because I have been dilating my ass for the past 3 months and was seeing great improvement. I realized that scar tissue was my main issue, and that I had to slowly stretch it out in order to prevent tearing. I had gotten to the point that I could use a small dildo on myself without having any problems. I thought that maybe I was in the clear.

But this morning I re-opened a fissure with my morning bowel movement and I’m feeling very frustrated. I thought I had been beyond the point that that would happen again. I’m not sure what I need to do to ensure that I won’t continue to have this problem throughout my whole life.

I don’t want to have LIS because I feel like I can conquer this without surgery, but I definitely feel more skeptical of that today. I’m a little less confident now. It’s really nice to hear a similar story so thanks for sharing. This is especially challenging for us gay men. Our psychology is so deeply effected by this because our asses are such a part of our sex lives. I’ve realized that emotional hygiene and love/kindness towards myself is a big part of the recovery for this. Best of luck to you!

B

Did you do the surgery after all?