Hello, I joined a couple days ago. I am 53 Male, I have had issues since as long as I can recall.
I just have learned to live with it but I want to do something about it.
I have never been to Dr about it, usually too wrapped up in anxiety or blood work issues.
I am borderline diabetic and cholesterol is high and BP is high.
My diet is pretty good, fruits, nuts, vegetables and I run, or walk or bike now and then.
I don't take the meds I am supposed to except the BP one, because I drink too much and I keep thinking I will get more exercise and heal myself naturally so I avoid the Dr and the colonoscopy I am due for because my anus is so sore all the time the thought of going for that is terrifying and embarrassing.
I am getting sick of taking 3-6 tries to fully have a BM. Also I have recurring fissure and irritation some bleeding but mostly just irritation and pain.
I can never seem to fully relax without then tightening up before I am done. So I uses a lot of wipes , diaper cream whatever I can to stay normal.
It has gone on for so many years I don't even know any different. Reading here and doing other searches on the web is very helpful. I dint even realize there was a name for stuff like this until I stumbled on a Duke university website document a while ago.
I will lurk around and maybe someday I can help someone else. I know this can be a tough thing because it is hard to share with others who don't have it. It seems too weird and unfortunately I am still getting over the shame because I always just chalked it up to bad potty training experience I had as a kid and I should just grow up and relax.
Thanks for sharing on this site