Hi guys I had surgery for fistula 1 week ago due to developing a peri anal abscess a year ago. This was 1 month prior to having my baby boy. Had incision and drainage under spinal. Unfortunately over healed to quickly, due to pregnancy hormones so developed a fistula. I have had a seton insitu for 1 week now and it is sore! Am not taking analgesia as would prefer not to and can deal with the discomfort. It really stings when I pass urine. Opening bowels fine thank God and it has not been anywhere near as painful as I had expected it to be in relation to that. However my surgeon who is also a colleague of mine told me I would be able to resume a normal sex life. This is where I can't even imagine letting my boyfriend anywhere near me. It is so tender even when I just touch the seton and the skin around it. I have been wiggling it once a day as I was instructed to do. Holding it near the would site and moving it from side to side hope this is correct? I am a nurse but no experience with setons. Any advice appreciated and sexual relation experiences from women thanks.

I have not had this surgery, but personally I would go with what my body tells me about sex rather than what the surgeon says.

Here is some information given to patients after having a Seton put in:

"You should abstain from sexual intercourse and not put anything into your rectum or vagina (e.g. tampons) for two weeks after the procedure, as this may cause further damage to your rectum or may dislodge the seton.

After two weeks you can return to sexual intercourse if you feel comfortable but please still take care to make sure you do not dislodge the seton."

Thanks Savaici for your message. Yes this is the only info I have been given post op. I always listen to my body and at the min it's saying no way! Was just wondering if any ladies on here that had the operation and experiences post op.

Try a search on the forum, up above between FAQ and Portal, and see what you can come up with. Search by topic. But in the end, if your body says no, I would go with that!!

Will do thanks Savaici x