I searched the forum and didn't really see anything on this topic, so I'll reluctantly bring it up here (even though I'm sure sex and anything having to do with it is the last thing on your minds!).
I haven't had sex or done anything (including masturbation) since this issue started (since about late December for me). I'm currently healing and using Diltiazem (I've been on it about four weeks now and have another 2-4 weeks on it, at least). I'm still having some pain now and then, but it's not at all near the excruciating level it was when this first started.
Anyway, I'm really scared that orgasm (whether through masturbation or sex) will re-tear the area, so I've been avoiding it. I was wondering how you guys cope with this and when it's safe to start having orgasms and sex again. I still have some pain now and then, so I've been too scared to do anything. I know my boyfriend is very sexually deprived and this concerns me, even though he's been very understanding. It's just been a strain on our relationship and I have to admit I've been sexually deprived myself at times (when I'm not having pain). Can an orgasm cause tearing since it involves muscle contractions down there (including the anal area)? I really, REALLY do not want to re-tear the area and go through this all over again. :( I just don't know when it'll be safe for me again.
I realize I should probably contact my CRS about this, but wanted to ask you guys first. Thank you! :) You've all been a great help!