Hi Sav, Hi Jr2,
I am so sorry to read about the ongoing intensity of your conditions and Jr2, I am so sorry to hear you retore after such a long time - Just another issue for you to have to deal with.
I hope the intensity of the pain is not back to what it ever was originally? Is there any way you can start "afresh" with it all & get a completely new and experienced CRS to reassess your whole situation. Surely no-one should have to live like this or with what you have for so long? When I reread my more relatively minor issues compared to yours, I really have no reason to complain!
You must be exhausted and at your wits end with it all, but I do believe someone somewhere can help you and there will be a solution - it must be so frustrating trying to find that though. I really am sorry that both of you are continuing to suffer in your own ways to such an extent. Sometimes, life just doesn't seem fair at all.
I've been doing a lot of work with an Acupuncturist in the last few weeks for other reasons (not bum related - mainly depression & hormonal) but the principle is the same - to rebalance the chi in the body, clear out the meridians and keep things balanced and flowing properly. I am having some very interesting results and feeling a lot more positive & energised generally. Just a thought - an Eastern perspective on dealing with things? Is it something you have tried or might consider?
Jr2, I have my hems relatively under control right now but they are quick to flare up if I am not careful! I was actually never able to distinguish proper BMs from "false" urges (one of my major IBS symptoms & a hormonal issue) and was trying to "go" frequently when actually I never needed to (and straining) I'm sure this has made things so much worse in the past. I am better now at dealing with this, have completely stopped the straining, continue to adopt a squat position & along with exercise etc. I am in a much better place. If things get sore, I have been alternating PrepH with Coconut Oil again to provide relief...Another major realisation was getting more substance in my stools! Because I was always striving to keep the healing fissure happy, my stools were probably too soft but this isn't good for the hems! - slightly more solid and bulky stools makes my hems much better rather than too soft or too runny, but it took me a while to learn this one too!...I'm sure you have experimented with pretty much most things over the last 4 years but I still continue to learn day by day I think and it has helped things become better....
I do hope one day that you (both) find what you need to lead a more manageable and "normal" life, but Jr2 please stay as strong as I know you are & never give up faith or hope! I do hope that the latest retears do not make life that unbearable for you and you are able to bounce back quickly....
Yes Sav, it's great that some of us are still here and sticking together years on! Having been through this stuff together, it kind of makes us special that we continue to remain/ come back to this site and continue to offer that support to one another. I've been here less in recent months, but I can't just forget the suffering that we all share & continue to share and you all mean a lot to me!