by Fissurefrustration » 04 Nov 2014, 14:54
Wounded, My prayers will be with you and I'm sending all the positive vibes.
My advice: relax relax relax! I know it's so easy to say but so hard to do but try to focus on you and your husband. The night before you go I'd have a long bath. I don't mean a sitz here, I mean light some candles, put some salt in and if you have any oils you use that don't agro your bum put those in. Stick some relaxing music on and try to take some time out to yourself, after see if your hubby would like to give you a massage. Take a stool softener before bed (magnesium/lactulose etc) and apply any soothing creams you have that work, I like honey/aloe before sleeping. I'd also advise 2 paracetamol before bed!
The day of the event, wake up early, have a hot cup of water, a sitz or shower and see if your body needs to go to the loo but remember the Vaseline first! - hopefully the stool softeners would have kicked in by then.
Wear comfortable clothes for the drive and change when you get there. I find the type of clothing I wear affects the pain level - I'm guessing down to the sweat. Remember to take regular breaks if it's a long drive, try to stretch your legs every 10 miles or so just to keep the blood flow going and relieve sphincter pressure. I also take a pre-chilled 1.5 Litre of water with me on drives and a cushion to sit on.
Honesty is the best policy with hubby and talk to him about the pain - don't push through it! Savour the romantic moment and enjoy eachothers company. Use pain relief when you need it and when you get to the function if there is a shower I find it a big help to use that on a mild setting around the area for symptom control.
I try to follow the belief that relaxation and meditation helps with pain and it's what I did the night before my driving test to try to get me through the pain of being sat on the car seat for an hour and it did help!
My thoughts and prayers are with you, keep the faith and try to relax - don't work yourself up or you could get constipated!
Congratulations on your 25th anniversary! and don't forget, your husband loves you for you and he's showing it through this trip away, I hope you have a fantastic time and your bum gives you a bit of a break.
Big hugs and positive vibes
J x
Suffering since June 2013
Methods tried:
GTN cream - migraines!
Manuka Honey / Coconut oil / Aloe
tag excision X 2, botox x 3
Dilatiazem
dilatation 2 X daily + Retin-C Vitamin Scar Treatment Oil 2 X daily - best thing ever.
Now pain free 2/7/21