Hi all you lovely people.Sorry in advance for this super long poat but I really need some help. I am a 26 year old female and have a 6 month old daughter born through emergency c section. After my labour and all the pushing i developed internal piles and a chronic fissure that doesn't seem to heal. I have completely changed my diet and using MOM so stools are soft and regular but the fissure just doesn't want to leave me. I have a sentinel pile as well hanging out.
The pain was quite bad at start but now not so much. I d say about a 3/10 after a BM but subsides after a few hours pass by. I am not worried about the pain as much but what is depressing me is that this has just taken over my life. I am always thinking about my next BM. Always making sure i have 30g of fiber a day - no junk food etc. I can not enjoy my baby or even be romantic with my husband.
Already its so hard being a first time mom but this bum problem has been going on for so long now that I feel my life is over.
Anyway i have seen an NHS CRS and he said that since rectogesic didnt work surgery is the only option. He wont do LIS on me because he said you might get incontinence and that will be irrreversible. So what he is going to do with me is to cauterize the sentinel pile and scrape the fissure to make it fresh to encourage healing. He warned me of the pain post op. But also said that the success rate will only be 70% which is so disheartening. I dont mind the pain for a week or two but i just want it to heal. But a 70% success rate is not what I wanted to hear. I have already gone through one surgery 3 months postpartum where they removed a skin tag, gave me botox but missed the fissure. And the pain after that surgery was so awful that I ended up in A&E. So because I already know what an anal surgery recovery is like its making me even more scared. Plus I think I can only go through this one more time.
Please could anyone who has gone through the same sort of experience give me advice.
And are there any people here who have gotten rid of this fissure in the long run whether by surgery or self remedies? I just need to hear some successful stories to make me feel better that this is not the end of the world and I too will one day have the 'luxury' of pooping with zero pain.