Hi jess, that's positive to hear that you got seen in a week but its rubbish that you have to fight like that to get them to understand just how much pain your in.
My husband has wanted to take me to A & E a fee times but I was always concerned about this I've read in other people's posts that they just get sent home. Then I was worried if in the event that they did the surgery then it may be done by a general surgeon and I know from everyone's advice the importance of a specialist.
Jess your symptoms pre surgery sound similar to mine. Do you mind if I ask do you think that skin tag was pulling on the tears during a bm? A big tag has replaced what was once just smooth perenium and then there are 2 tears either side, I can feel most of the pain on this tag and the front of the bum (12 position)
Also, a general point when I discussed with a friend who had tearing from a birth. She couldn't understand that they don't treat it quickly given that if you tear from a birth then your stitched there and then and yet with these tears there not stitched? I knew things were bad from the pain and washing but I took a picture before my last doctors appointment, and I was horrified. And although right now all I want is for the pain to stop it is upsetting that one day it looks normal and the next I'm left looking pretty deformed.