First off ... so sorry for the pain all of you experience.
My name is Nico, 38 male, graphic designer from Namibia, Africa.
My history is outlined at the end of this post.
Currently I do not suffer from fissures or hemorrhoids, 'just' spasms, needle-like pain after BM. While this can hardly be compared to what most of you go through, the impact it is having on my life is nevertheless moving me to attempt to sort it out now.
My spasms seem to come from the traumatic time of 2009 - 2012 (see below), so there is definitely a psychological/memory part to this.
We have tried Diltiazem ointment, which only worked for about 2 weeks.
One doc has proposed physio treatment, but the idea of being massaged ... internally ... simply not doing that!

Now he is proposing Botox injections in sphincter muscle and puborectalis. Both specialist surgeons I go to agree with this course of action. Both docs are very conservative!
If that doesn't help, I am considering finding a surgeon in Germany who will do an incision of the sphincter muscle to weaken it.
You guys may not be Doctors, but would you agree this is the best course of action? On the one hand I agree with using the most conservative measures for as long as possible, but on the other hand I think 6 years is plenty enough!
Thanks in advance!
Nico
2009 - after an unusual case of constipation = external hemorrhoids!
2009 - 2012 - terrifying pain after each BM, blood, in bed for 16+ hours/day. My business crashes due to this, leaving me without money to pay for an op.
2012 - Hemorrhoidectomy, traditional = tying off blood vessels, leaving skin tags on, small cut in internal sphincter to make passing stool easier.
2013 - great year overall, one 2-week bout of spasms that passed without treatment.
2014 - spasms, spent a small fortune on standing desks - too afraid of sitting, helping but not curing.
2015 - spasms, Diltiazem oinment works for about 2 weeks, anal manometry = appears normal.
2015 - inserting middle finger in shower after BM, massaging muscles a bit is the only thing that seems to work to a degree.
2015 - having lost faith, I drive 1500km to Cape Town, South Africa, to see a Gastrointerologist. Ultrasound, another manometry, colonoscopy. He wants to remove skin tags and do stapled Hemorrhoidectomy - but I decide to consult my surgeon back home firts and he says the results from Cape Town do not warrant an op.
2015 - past 3 months have been quite good, without doing anything except showering after BM, had lots of work and less time 'thinking about this condition'
2016 - spasms, not as bad as 2014/2015 but enough to give rise to fear, teetering on edge of depression again.