I can't believe they did something to you without your consent. It doesn't sound like from what he told your mother that they did a hemorrhoidectomy. I just had one 4 weeks ago and am still in terrible pain.
Was he talking about an internal hemorrhoid or external hemorrhoid?
Whatever they did it for sure going to increase your pain momentually and he should be ashamed of himself for treating you like that. I really think doctors need a taste of their own medicine.
Is he a general surgeon or a CRS?
Don't feel bad about crying. I cry 3-4 times a week and break down in front of doctors when I feel like I am not being understood.
I am so sorry that you are going through this.