by alpinestrawberry » 16 Mar 2011, 19:58
Hicham,
I know this is scary...:(
But, you have to ask yourself if it's going to get better on its own? After ten years, I think you're going to need some help from a doctor to get it healed.
You can take stool softeners like Miralax/Movical, not sure where you are? This product has different names in different places. There are also some ointments you can use to help relax the muscle.
The 'extra piece of meat' your wife saw is probably a skin tag, your body develops this to help protect the fissure from further tearing. If it is a skin tag, it's just another sign of how chronic the fissure is. I don't want to discourage you, but your doctor is probably right about needing surgery. There are lots of surgery experiences you can read about on here, and most are positive.
I've had my fissures for five years and am getting surgery next week. I think there is hope even for someone who's had fissures for a long time...there have been members here who had fissures even longer than ten years, and got them healed through surgery.
Hang in there. Try to find a good doctor...believe me I know how painful and embarassing this is...I am pretty shy about having my butt looked at, but I decided that I would fix this problem NOW no matter how shy I felt because it's destroyed my quality of life. It isn't worth trying to live with it when it can be fixed.
Best wishes!