Hi Bamibi – yep … that was one of the strangest encounters I’ve ever had with any doctor! As you can see, I had a wee ‘breakdown’ and had to vent here. I am so grateful that I can turn to the people in this forum for such wonderful support! Thank you so much for your sympathy and support too.
My GP told me that it can take about a year to see a specialist and recommended that I stay with the clinic as long as I’m comfortable doing so. I have googled the surgeon, and he seems quite qualified, but I can’t find anything out about his reputation. The comforting thing is that he works at a clinic that specializes in butt problems. Patient reviews of the clinic are generally positive – although many reviewers complained about rudeness, eccentricities/moralizing, and horrible bedside manner. However, the most common review goes something like “the doc is all business and rushed, but knows his stuff”. Well, that’ll do for me right now! Your doc sounds like a bit of a dork too. I’ve noticed that about surgeons – they seem to have no people skills at all and can make you feel really dumb or like you are a pest. I’m so glad that your CRS is very good at what he does. I’m pretty sure that mine is highly skilled, given where he works. He’s also not mean. In fact, he’s generally pretty friendly and tries to be reassuring. I just think he doesn’t quite know how to behave like a normal person.
I like your doc’s reaction to your question, but it would be nice to get more detailed advice about sex! I really think doctors should take workshops on sexuality – too many of them seem to have a problem handling sexuality and get all weirded-out. Mine at least should be educated about the many different kinds of perfectly safe and natural sex acts that people engage in so that he can get over his hang-ups. We are having some interesting controversies here in Canada – doctors using a ‘conscience clause’ to refuse to provide contraception – and even pap smears – to single women. I’ve done a lot of advocacy work concerning gender issues and sexual rights and it never ceases to amaze me how much morality there is in the supposedly ‘objective’ medical community!