hi denster!
well at least the hard part is over - getting the surgery and you did get a lot done! wow!
as fissy says don't get down on yourself and try to rethink when you do start to get depressed that it's not realistic to feel normal within 10 days.
i am not sure if the doc went over expectations with you, but pretty much you will need to allow yourself at least between 6-8 months to heal really well down there. and with the type of work you had done, it may be a little longer.
generally speaking, it may be up to 1 year when you actually feel that you are 98% normal.
so you have path to recovery now and it will play tricks on your mind - but now you just have to re-adjust what your healing time table expectations are...10 days is not enough to tell you how successful your surgery was.
after a shower, i always recommended to blow dry your butt on cold setting with blow dryer...then apply such creams as fissy mentions.
fissy - i didn't realize all that work you had done! i hope you are feeling lovely and ready for spring!
be calm denster and keep yourself clean and protected down there, and keep on a good diet of fiber, veggies, fruits, grains with fluids.