This is my info from when I did dilation. I did not realise that I did it for a year! Every day. Hard work. There is someone who used to come a lot to the forum, and she had had surgery and had to dilate after it. She had a wonderful doctor too. I will try and remember her name on here and post it:
"Don't be afraid of doing the dilation. Just be gentle with yourself. Keep the dilator in for as long as feels comfortable for you. Sometimes I only had it in for a couple of minutes, sometimes 10-15 minutes. The muscle (internal spincter) feels like a brick wall at first! Just go slowly.
Only use the pediatric dilators and start with the very smallest for short periods of time. Build up the time you leave it in gradually. Warm the dilators under running water and just relax when you use them. For me the best position was on all fours, head to the ground. Then I would gingerly lower myself to my side... Lying on your side is more usual though.
Dilators: Just get the ones you need. I started with 8mm and went up to 15mm eventually. These are pediatric dilators. They use them after surgery on young children. I did not have a prescription; I just ordered and paid for them online.
This is the link for the pediatric dilators:
http://ssp-inc.com/products/pediatric-p ... -dilators/
I used Sliquid Organics Natural Gel or Soothe as lubricants. Both are great lubricants and I used both of them at intervals and they are excellent in my opinion. Mostly I used the Sliquid. I tried KY jelly and I hated it. Never used Vaseline, as per doctor's advice.
Links for Sliquid and Soothe:
http://sliquid.com/full-width/sliquid-o ... tural-gel/
http://www.intimateorganics.com/store/p ... 2F2oz.html
I worked at this for a year. It is hard work to be moderately pain free (very pain free in comparison to how I was). I also use a Sitz bath, each time I poop!!"