First I just wanted to say how thankful I am that I was able to find this forum and I'm hoping this may lead to a bright and better future for me going forward, it seems like not many medical professionals know enough about this issue that I've been suffering from for so long. I must also warn that if you are uncomfortable with the topic of homosexuality then please move along.
I am a 23 years old and I got a fissure in the 12 o clock position just before my 23rd birthday. This thing used to cause me extreme pain and bleeding and although the pain has subsided for the most part, I still know its there and I still have to be especially conscientious when visiting the washroom not to let a movement pass too quickly in risk of having it reopen. I have been to the specialist twice already and have another follow up with him in 8 weeks, if it isn't completely healed then surgery will be on the list.
I have changed my diet to include lots of fibre and tons of water and for the most part it has helped, I haven't had any pain for over a week and a half an I was really beginning to feel normal again... After this weekend and some bad food choices I can feel that pain returning ever so slightly and now I'm just waiting for it to let me know that HEY, shag you!! I've reopened again and there is nothing you can do about it!!!
During this time, around the same time I got this fissure I started seeing a guy and anal sex has come up in conversation but we have yet to do anything because of this condition I'm facing. I feel like this is a roadblock in my relationship and I'm scared of where things will end up if I don't heal...if anal sex wasnt already a big enough burden to deal with, I now have this fissure that just doesn't seem to want to go away! I was thinking that once I healer I could start introducing small butt plugs to use myself for the purpose of stretching my anus so the act of anal sex wouldn't be so painful he first time, but now with this fissure I'm scared to do anything in fear that it will just reopen!!!
After reading some of the posts and some of you poor people who have been suffering with it for years, I don't know how you do it, I feel like I'm losing hope and this thing is stopping me from living a normal life, you all know how frustrating it is I'm sure!
Any other gay fissure sufferers out there? Is there a light at the end of this tunnel? Do you advise surgery dilate the anus?
So lost on this issue I just want it to go away :(