(1) Aloe vera gel from the plant, up my rectum, caused extreme pain and swelling, and no healing.
(2) Fiber, which was recommended by my doctor. Conysl hurt my stomach, Metamucil made my bm's too hard and bulky.
(3) Bran cereal made my stools too loose, causing my sphincter to spasm
(4) Okra caused my sphincter to spasm
(5) Miralax made my stools burn like fire
What finally is working:
(1) Lots and lots and lots of water
(2) Nifedipine/lidocaine/hydrocortisone cream 3 times a day as prescribed by my doc
(3) Shallow baths at least 3 times a day and after every bm
(4) No caffeine and no meat at all
(5) Apple juice in the morning instead of OJ
(6) Oatmeal with honey for breakfast
(7) For lunch: one legume (butterbeans, black eyed peas, lima beans, pinto beans, OR new potatos) and 2 soft green veggies (turnip greeens, brussel sprouts, broccoli, green beans)

(9) For dessert: a banana and half a glass of prune juice
(10) One Colace stool softener at bedtime.
Finally getting relief, so I just wanted to share with everyone and hopefully it can help someone else.