Oh Marsh !!!! I know you would like to hit me over the head LOL - but you are doing GREAT considering that you had hemorrhoids removed !!!!!
That is about as painful as it can get : ((((((( . We had members completely immobilized by pain after that procedure !!!!
So - if it is of any comfort - you are bearing is great KTW and in a week you will start feeling better ! A full week is usually necessary for a but to start calming down after a hemorrhoidectomy !!!!
I know that you hate your doctor at this point : ( - but it is for the best - he took care of all possible problems so once you heal it will be forever !!!!
Ask for another kind of pain med !!!! Usually after the surgery person needs 2-3 days to have the first BM - and it does not mean it will be "hard" since you cleansed your guts COMPLETELY before the surgery and now they need time to collect and move a new "scoop of poop" down the shoot LOL
Ask for some Valium too !!!!! It will relax your sphincter that is now in a spasm due to such a "butt shock". It happened to me too !!!
Best of luck !!!! Keep us posted