You are too kind. :) I've found that new messages don't show up for me either and I have to view the site in desktop mode to be able to see them. Kind of annoying but not a big deal.
Off topic, but I wanted to note this down as a record- I recently began taking Lexapro, my first time ever taking an antidepressant. The tottering tower of problems has become too much for me to handle just through therapy and other means. It may help with pelvic floor tension by reducing anxiety, if I can tolerate the side effects.
I also found this long but interesting video by a Stanford doctor on pelvic pain. I haven't had the patience (heh) to watch it all but she gives some very useful and otherwise hard to find information:
https://youtu.be/xnJc-3M9NRQ. She mentions proctalgia at 25:06.