Oh no Val!!
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! My fistulolotomy would is still healing. It hasn't discharged any pus for about 10 days, but it is still bleeding a bit during BMs and when I stretch it. I don't have any real itching, but there is still a dull almost-but-not-quite pain sometimes. My doc told me to stretch the wound a lot so it woundn't heal into a fistula - when I stretch it, my wound looks like a ditch. It used to look more like a hole.
Can you call your surgeon and ask that he see you sooner? You've gone private, right? Really, I hope that means that they actually offer proper service! This may be part of the healing process, but I still think you deserve to be seen sooner rather than later. I'm so frustrated for you! You really deserve a break!