Thank you Suzy.... I think I will probably end up having the flap surgery. I thought I was headed for it anyway, so I am more than prepared if I have it.
Buttastic.....yes, I'm using manuka honey. I take a good teaspoon of it and put some on my butt at night.
I don't particularly think I have a normal resting pressure. When I am in increased pain I can think about my anus and physically relax it, so I do think it is slightly elevated.
I will have to ask my crs a lot more questions before I would even consider lis for me.
Rachael.... Love and hugs right back at ya !