My teenage daughter is having major surgery in 10 days. I plan to stay with her for the duration of her stay, which is expected to be a week, give or take a few days. I am stressing about how I am going to be able to do sitz baths and showers after BM's. I also don't know what kind of food I will be able to eat. I eat cereal and blueberries every day - can't figure a way to do that there. I will bring my sitz bath pan, but not sure if I will have a private bathroom to use, especially in the early days, as my daughter will be in ICU and not an actual room. Also, my BM's are rather urgent, and if visitors or staff are there I may have to leave and stay gone if able to soak. I will probably only have a pull-out chair - no bed to lie on when hurting. I hope to be able to walk some for exercise, as I don't want to give that up. Has anyone here had to do somethng similar, or do any hospital workers have advice? I am a person of faith, and I am praying that God will get me through this, as He has through other dreaded situations. So I guess my faith is weak at the moment because of the duration of this stay. I want so badly just to be there for my daughter and to care for her, but I feel like I will be the one who needs care! Any helpful advice will be greatly appreciated. I should mention that my husband and/or another daughter should be there to help much of the time, but probably not overnight.
For information about me, I developed a fissure a little over a year ago. It cleared up in a relatively short period of time. About 4 months ago, I developed another (or the same). I am at the point now where I just ache most of the day. Serious spasms have been gone a while. I was feeling great for about a week and a half and had a relapse this past Sunday. It is not as bad as before, but I am very sore. Car rides and sitting in general are the worst. I am calling my doctor today to see if he will prescribe me Diltiazem, as I have only been on over-the-counter ointments until now. He mentioned nitro, but no Diltiazem, and I think I would like to try that first. Thought I was finally getting better, but now I need more help.
I definitely don't want to make this about me over my daughter, because she is my baby and will be going through a very painful procedure to correct a congenital bone deformity. My first concern is to pray for her safety and swift recovery.
Thanks, everybody.