Hey Cheryl, thank you! You are too kind. Please let Dwight know that I pass on my thanks to him as well. I'm so sorry to hear about his mom :( I hope he had a good visit with her. You mentioned that she is in Tennessee -- is he from Illinois as well?
Fissy, so it sounds to you like did I did have a minor fistulotomy along with the abscess drainage then? I've looked in the mirror a few times now and can't see much evidence that very much of anything was cut at all to be honest. I can still see a bump there -- it was very small yesterday, but actually looks bigger today.
As it stands, pain is still minimal (I actually had several big hard BMs today and it hurt way less than after LIS), and I still get a little extra "stuff" when I pass gas, but I'm not that worried about incontinence anymore.
I guess my main fear now is that the abscess will recur. For example I don't know why the bump would look bigger today than yesterday (I would expect it to get smaller with time). It looks kind of pink and bubbly. Maybe there really is a fistula that isn't fixed and the abscess is filling back up with pus or something... Who knows anymore. All I know is that 2 weeks ago, I just had some tolerable pain to deal with, and because I wanted to try to fix it, now things are infinitely more complicated and I still can't go back to work. I'd do anything to be back to the way I was before any surgery. I could live with that level of pain forever if I needed to.
You know what sucks is that I haven't told my parents about either surgery. They're very panicky people (even more than me if you can believe that) and would totally freak out. They live just a few miles away and come to visit us every weekend, so the last few weeks I've just made up excuses about how we won't be home. But now I'm kind of running out of excuses as things drag on :( On top of that, my son was admitted to the hospital again on Saturday (less than 12 hours after we got home from my surgery) and is still there now with my wife. He's had a super high fever for days now and they've got him on a ventilator (for breathing problems) with morphine (for pain :)) and benzodiapezines (for muscle spasms) via IV. I didn't even know they gave morphine to infants. Still no idea what the problem is either. The fact that we have just one income and I have no idea when I'll be able to return to work is just scary too. Feels like everything is totally out of control. Bad timing for ass problems, that's for sure. I thought if I did LIS in early May, it would be healed up before anything else crazy happened, but all it did was make everything crazier.
So okay as for the abscess, would you agree with the Wikipedia entry that perianal abscess after LIS is caused by the scalpel causing a fistula? I don't fully understand if it's a mechanical problem (i.e., scalpel causing a fistula) or simply a cleanliness problem (i.e., because bacteria are infecting the open incision). It seems that the treatment would depend on which one it is. Or maybe it could be both, I dunno anymore. I don't feel like I'm being too lenient toward the doc -- if it really is because of the scalpel causing a fistula, then yeah that's her fault. But then if other people have had infections after LIS, I wonder if it's always caused by the same thing or if it can have different causes. At this point I just don't care anymore. I just want this whole episode over with. I'm not even sure what I'll tell work in the morning. I was supposed to be back tomorrow, I guess I could always take a bunch of painkillers and just show up anyway. I don't really believe that things will get any better or worse no matter what I do anyhow. It's just taken on a life of its own now. If antibiotics work I've actually got a leftover bottle of Avelox that's still good, it gave me bad peripheral neuropathy when I took it before so I stopped, but I've got half a damn mind to just take it in case it helps at all.
Well that's my lengthy whining for the day. Off to sleep so in a few hours I can see how big the bump has grown overnight :) One good thing about valium, I'll say, is that it helps you sleep nicely even when your mind is spinning endlessly lol :) Oh and hope your daughter had a good prom