Hey Tracy,
I used couple of things. My ritual was something like this : I would have my BM first thing in the morning, would wash with running water, than sit in the tub for 20 min. After soaking I would get up, dry with towel and check my butt for cleanliness. If I would find anything astray, I would use a q-tip dipped in chamomile or Balneol cream to gently clean it. Sometimes I needed many q-tips to really do nice job. After that I would soak cotton round in a cup of chamomile cream with 2 dropper-fulls of White Oak and tuck it between my cheeks and lay on my belly for 20 min reading something. After my butt felt nice and cool , I would get up, remove the cotton round and dry my butt with a hairdryer and apply the cream that I mixed myself . It was a combo of Aloe gel, Mebo cream, A+D Cram, vit. E and Vit, A drops, some Nefidapine. All mixed well gives very nice looking cream and decent smelling ; ) . I would apply some than with a q-tip on my anus and it protected it from discharge, moisture and friction.
I would repeat all of the above at least 3 times a day.
Hope it gives you some new ides to try