My incision site is getting better but I would say it never really got a chance to heal right because of the three times it was cut. The skin is still weak and can be troubled by any stool that is rough at all so I have to keep my bowels like mashed potatoes. But like I said I doubt yours will take as long because you won't be having to cut it open over and over.
I guess I figured I was healed on that side I had the papilla removed when it stopped hurting on the right side but since I had so much pain on the left side from the hemorrhoidectomy it was difficult to tell, but I do distinctly remembering that that pain was the first to go but I was pretty swollen still even though it didn't hurt after a few weeks.
You two are gonna do great-you have no impediments that will keep you from healing but it is like watching grass grow and you might not notice a difference from day to day so maybe just evaluate the difference every week and I think you will see you are getting better. I know how horribly frustrating it is though.