well juney although i can relate to some part of your ordeal minus the surgeries of how your butt is feeling, that is what drew the line for me to seek out the help of a CRS.
if you ever need another opinion and are in the northern virginia/washington, dc metro area, look for dr. thomas wright in annandale, va.
i am hoping this is not what will go on forever.
you will find the answers.
. diltazem helped me but took about 2/3 weeks tbh before i felt a change. also if your butt is going into spasms so much, maybe taking a low dose of valium wil help things out to.butts eh who would want them