Hi there, J,
I take 30ml, near as that, of MofM, every evening. I was taking stool softeners, but gave up on them and just use the MofM.
I am amazed at how the Lorazepam has changed things around in the day. Just 0.13mg has made a difference. I take it when I wake up. I have never developed a tolerance to what I take in the evening, but will watch the day amount as do not want to go higher. It is immediate the release of the tension in the sphincter. I had been so bad, not able to walk, etc., so this has been a relief...but I will not get over confident!
Don't know how often you use the dilator, but I am on every third evening instead of every other evening. Find that is okay for me.
I went off using my Sitz bath some time ago, but not for long, and I use it every time I go to the loo now, which is usually twice a day. It does help me, and not having so much tension there now makes it even easier.
Dilation requires discipline, but I have that, likewise with my incredibly boring diet

. Another thing that I swear by are the Smarty Pants vitamins that I take. They have changed my health, turned it around completely. Plus they taste good!